Tell the couple you will check with them at each meeting on how they are doing on their commitment.You also need to find out if they have been involved physically with others, and have they discussed it?These meetings work best when everyone comes prepared.
The couple should come to this meeting prepared to cover these chapters.
If they do not come prepared, you may be getting an indication as to how serious they are about Pre-Marriage Counseling.
Mc Rae’s book “Preparing for Your Marriage.” You, your spouse, and the couple you are counseling, should have a copy of this book. Should that be the case, rather that allow them to “wing it,” make this an assignment they will be ready to do at the next meeting.
Encourage the couple to complete the assignments separately. The church’s Pre-Marriage Counseling and/or Wedding Process, states that after the first meeting you and the Wedding Officiant are to decide if the couple qualifies to continue.
Only in this way will you be able to know what additional resources you will want to incorporate into your meetings. If the couple is not committed in this way, it will be impossible, for example, for the husband to obey the command of Ephesians : “Husbands love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” How can a husband love his wife as Christ also loved the church if he is not committed to the principals of biblical headship?